💫 Building Energy for Love — One Self Date at a Time

One of my mentors suggested that to build my confidence, energy, and capacity to call in a romantic connection with the right woman, I should schedule regular Self Dates in my calendar.

I’ve always enjoyed doing things alone — not everyone shares my interests or is available when I want to go out — so I’m comfortable seeing a movie, going to a sporting event, or exploring something new on my own.

But what exactly is a Self Date?

Here’s how my AI browser summed it up beautifully:

> “A self-date is an intentional act of spending quality time alone with oneself, treating oneself with the same care and respect one would offer a romantic partner or close friend. It involves engaging in activities that bring joy, foster self-discovery, and promote well-being — such as taking a walk, reading, pursuing a hobby, or enjoying a meal alone. The practice is not about being lonely, but about building self-love, independence, and a deeper understanding of one’s own needs and desires.”

Self Dates can be done by anyone — even couples — but they’re especially powerful for singles. I’ve probably been doing them unofficially for years, but now I’m making it a weekly habit.

This doesn’t stop me from spending time with family, friends, and social groups — in fact, it enhances those connections.

I love movies and the fantasy genre, so here are some photos from last week’s Self Date to the Harry Potter Exhibition in Brunswick, Melbourne. This week’s Self Date? A last-minute restricted-view ticket to see legendary English band Oasis!

It’s been a while since I’ve been to a stadium concert, so I’m really looking forward to it.

If you’re single — or even in a relationship — I encourage you to try a Self Date for yourself.

It’s an empowering way to reconnect with who you are, refill your energy, and open space for the kind of love and life you truly want.

Giuliano Avedikian